Wedding's can most definatley cause divided opinions. Some people are very delighted with the news and expect a wedding immediately. Others think that perhaps you should wait for a better time in your life or to experience life before you settle down. It can be a confusing times for Brides and Groom's to be because your asking yourself the same questions. Should we wait? What age should we be? Should be experience life more and travel the world? I know I did.
Over time I have discovered that you simply get married when YOU want and when the timing is right for YOU. A lot of close families and friend's get so involved in all the wedding excitement that they forget that it is not actually their wedding and will start planning it for you without realizing. I think that the main key is to sit down with your partner alone and discuss what you both would like. It is your wedding and you need to work out if you have time or money to plan a wedding. It's clear you both love each other very much so talking is the way forward in going the next step in becoming Mr and Mrs. After all, he/she wouldn't have proposed if they did not intent to marry you.
I remember a lot of people saying to me "see the world before you settle down" and this statement bothered me. I spend a lot of time going on holiday and days out with my Fiance already, what difference does it mean if you are married or not? I have never been much a of traveler or explorer, I much prefer my home comforts and marrying the man I love is one of them. I would rather spend my efforts planning a wedding then getting on a aeroplane. Some people may disagree but that is just my opinion. I have grown up with my Fiance and we have experienced a lot of things together so why should we not get married until we have experienced more. I personally don't think it makes any difference if you are Husband and Wife when it comes to having fun with your partner. Infact, I would much rather travel the world with the man I call my Husband by my side.
At this time, everyone will be expecting you to get married and move out or start a family. This can cause a lot of questioning as to if now is the right time to get married. One thing you have to remember is that you do not have to do what others expect of you. I know many people who have got married and not had children until another 10 year's on. There is no need for this stigma around becoming newly weds. For example, if you are a young couple and you want to get married, the thought of rushing to have children afterwards may overwhelm you which can put you off getting married. Just stop! Take a breather, have a chat and decide if this is or is not what you want. Can babies wait? Can the marriage wait? it's up to you!
Remember the old days when our great grandparents would be married at 18? Well age is a common factor of wondering when to get married. Am I to young? Should we wait more years? Are we to old? Well, in my opinion if you are 100% sure this is the person you love and want to marry then go for it! I do not think age is an issue. I knew from the moment I met Tom that he was going to be the one I want to marry and nothing has changed. I would have married him at 14 if I could which is when I first met him. Bear this in mind when wondering if your age is an issue. Family members may disapprove if you are "to young" or "to old" but as long as you are of a legal age to legally marry then why not!
Finances are one of the worrying things about getting married! Can we afford it? This is the serious part of really sitting down and deciding what to do. You and your Fiance should work out your money and what you can save per month or what money you already have. My advice would be to not book anything until you know that you are financially stable as some wedding companies will not issue you a refund if you can not afford things. May be have a chat with your family members to see if they would like to contribute to your wedding fund. It's a huge ask of you and can be embarrassing but do not expect money from people. Buy yourself a piggy bank for your loose change! It all adds up. The quicker you save, the quicker you can marry.
I hope this has answered any of your wedding worries. Please feel free to comment below on your thoughts or ideas for more blog posts that will help you. Contact me on Twitter at
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